note from a littlesister // pioneering

A Wildflowes Home // note from a little sister // Journal // pioneering // Ingrid Kolås

since this is the first “note from a littlesister”, I Line will just quickly jump in and say a few things. If you didn’t hear about the new series here on AWH, I recommend checking out this little post first where I introduce the series, right here.

while his months theme is pioneering, the theme is meant as a “loose guideline” for the writers, how they choose to interpret is, is up to them, and what makes it the more exciting. If you didn’t catch my little introduction of the pionerring theme and what that has to do with wildflowers, you can read it here.

Ingrid, who is the writer behind this monthly series “note from a littlesister”. I’m so so so excited to see her grow as a writer, her voice and see where this is gonna take her and us as the readers. This is her first piece she’s ever written for a blog, so show her some love and appreciation. She did a little interview and telling her story a few years back, you can read that here, if you wanna more about her story.

That’s all I had to say. And the last time I interrupt so rudely, I give the word over to Ingrid, and hope you’ll enjoy, be inspired and feel encourage from a littlesister!


Dear you!

Don’t be scared. You´re amazing. Even if everyone around you tells you you´re not. Don’t listen to them. I know it´s hard, but I also know that you can handle it and stand against it. Everyone who tells you that you can´t handle things, is just trying to beat you down. If you want to do something big in your life, do it. Not for everyone else, but for you and only you. You are the only one who will receive something from your choices. If you fail, that will be on you, not them. And if you success, that will be on you as well. Nobody can take that away from you. You can do anything you want. It´s hard to stand against the hate, and I know that and have experienced that my own. It´s like being on a stage where everyone can see your failure and laugh at you. It´s horrible and I wish you could see that you´re not like what they tell you. You are strong, and you can do it. Just believe it, and you´ll get through. No matter how many people there are to beat you down, there will always be that person who reach for your hand to help you stand again. I promise. Me myself has coped with so much. Teachers who told me I couldn’t do things, people around me I thought was my friends telling me I´m not what they expected, my parents giving up on me, and friends telling me to stop doing what I want. I know the feeling of being beaten down. It´s horrible. As a 6-year-old girl I started shooting. And trust me people has told me that girls shouldn´t do it, and that its dangerous, and telling me that my dad is crazy who let me shoot at such a young age. But you know what? I didn´t listened to them. I´m here 12 years later doing what I love and taking a class that makes me a hunter. This is what I love to do, and I really hope that I one day can be the best. Through me 18 years of living, I´ve learned a lot, but the most important thing I´ve learned is that not everyone is going to like me or my plans for life. I think a lot of people look at me and laugh. Like how an 18-year-old girl can be the best hunter. If I let the words people tell me choose what to do, I wouldn’t be where I am today. My dad always believed in me when it comes to shooting. He always supports me no matter what. If I have a bad day at the shooting club, he gives me a clap on the shoulder and tells me that the next time I can make it better. It´s these people you should surround yourself with. The ones who believes in you even when you didn’t make it your best. It´s those people who will be there till the end and support you no matter what. They will always have your back and they will fall with you and not standing look at you fall. They will also raise again with you. So, whatever you dream to do, do it. Don’t let other people think of you like a loser, cause you´re many things, but you´re not a loser. You´re a winner and you will always be even tho you fail a couple of times.


Who is the writer? Where can you learn more about this person?

A Wildflowers Home // note from a littlesister // ingrid kolås // visitcard
 

Introducing a new series; "Note from a Littlesister" by Ingrid Kolås

I’m so excited to introduce a new wildflower to the wildflower writing team.
This girl is the closest I have to a little sister.
We became really close after, I had worked as a teacher-assistant at a school. She reached out to me in a very very difficult time where she struggled a lot with her mental health.
You might recognize her from when she shared her story here on AWH (A Wildflower’s Home, if you didn’t get the shorter version), at just 15!
I strongly recommend you check that out first: Click here.

I could tell you a lot about Ingrid, but I wanna let you get to know her yourself and instead tell you the reason why I asked her to write this series.
Lately I realized that even though I’ve been the “strong one”,
the encourager,
the big sis in this relationship
and even though I was always the one helping her,
she was also this constant cheerleader,
that little girl who looks at you,
and where you see flaws, shame and I’m not good enough,
she sees the coolest person in the whole world.
Ingrid has seen my not always perfect sides.

Still,
she’s my biggest cheerleader.

She just turned 18, and lately I’ve seen our relationship change, from young teenager and young adult to two young adults. I like this progress..
Lately I’ve started to see that it’s not only one way anymore.
She’s been there for me too, with her encouraging words and lots of <3-emojis.

When I was thinking about my vision and dream for AWH is I want the full spectrum of wildflowers, encouragers and family-members.
I want a mom’s tender advice and love, a fathers practical advice and love and a little sister admiration and cheer leading.
And all of a sudden, I could see it clearly.
It made sense.
Not before, not after, but now.
The timing was right..

I know she has a gift for writing. And I know she needs a little push to start writing and develop her gift.
And I knew I wanted to share the littlesister love I’d experienced from her with a wildflower’s home.

So when you read her words, take it from a littlesister who sees you faults and imperfections, but thinks you’re the coolest anyway!

I’ll give the word over to Ingrid, so she can tell you a little bit about herself and why she wanna do “Note from a Littlesister”

When I was a child I got bullied a lot. I was called a lot of names and people physically hurt me. For 9 years I was being bullied. In 2014 I got diagnosed with depression. I started self-harming, starved myself and I felt really suicidal. Honestly it’s a miracle that I’m still here. This is my story in a very short version. Through everything that I’ve been through I’ve always had Line by my side. I know that not everyone is that lucky and I also know that its hard to not feel like you fit into places. Line asked me if I wanted to maybe challenge myself and start to write those notes, and because of what shes been to me, I had to say yes! I want to help people who don’t have anyone close and I really hope that you can feel like I did when I had Line here.

I can’t wait to see where Ingrid is gonna take us, to start with she will write a note a month. Remember to follow on Pinterest and Instagram AND the new facebook-page to get updates for whenever a new post is up!

A Wildflowers Home // Ingrid Kolås // Note from a Littlesister - series