photoshoot + interview // malene + jamie

I'm no pro photographer (yet, hah), that's why I got so surprised & EXCITED when my 2 dear friends asked if I wanted to photograph their wedding. What an honour to capture their day! 
I said YES with a big smile on my face.. And here is a 'little' taste of my favorit shots. 
 - the superhero-photo was their own cool idea. I just applaud for creative people & loved being the photographer of these to lovebirds.

Beautiful Malene is getting her hair & make-up done before saying 'I do' to the love of her life..

It is now almost 2 years after this couple said ''I do''. I've asked my beautiful friend some questions about the married life. Read her (and her husbands) answers under the photos..

What surprised you the most about “The Married Life”?

The first thing, that surprised us with “The Married Life” was that it actually wasn’t so different from before. I mean, we were still just us, and we loved each other like before, so in that way, there wasn’t much that changed.

(I, Line, just have to make a quick comment.. I mean aren't they the cutest? *squeals*. Comment over & out)

What have been the most challenging?

The most challenging have probably been those times, where things just don't go the way they’re suppose to, you know? I don’t think that’s something unique about the life in a marriage, but it still felt like the hard days in some periods came with smaller breaks, compared to what they did when we we’re just dating/engaged…

What have been the best?

The best thing on the other hand have been that we always have each other - even those days where things get hard, we have this special bond… We don’t get tempted to just walk away, cause we can’t “just” leave (if that makes sense?)

(I'm sorry, Line is interrupting again, but seriously though.. Take a moment to just take in her beautiful beauty.. I can understand if Jamie loves looking into her deep blue eyes... - Okay, I'm done!)

Why get married / is it worth it to be married instead of “just” living together?

Like I mentioned in the question over - It’s also what makes it worth it to be married instead of just moving in together - you have made a very public and holy promise to stay together "for better and worse, until death do us apart" and that feels much more solid than "I think you're cute, wanna be my girl/boyfriend?" Not that there's anything wrong with being “together” or something - that is also a time to enjoy - but like I mentioned earlier that it wasn't so different from before to after we got married, however, it still feel as if we got a bonding that was a little harder to break. :)

Was there anything you wished you knew before you got married?

I don’t really know what I wish I knew before I got married ... Maybe that no matter how much you "prepare" (with couple-courses, books or whatever you can think of), it’s still nothing like you imagine. You know, maybe you have an idea that you’re gonna spend half an hour every morning, just sitting there and telling each other that you love each other and such - but that ain’t gonna happen, hah. Not to be pessimistic, but "real married life" is very different from what you imagine, so be careful not to have too high expectations. But I still think that it's really good to have dreams and ideas about how one's dream-marriage could look like.

Any advice? Things to think about & talk about before you choose to get married?

Advice? Hmm ... To the girls: Try to focus more on what you are looking forward to *after* the wedding, haha! To the guys: Try to focus a little more on the wedding itself - that will really make her happy ;)
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In addition to that, then you obviously should do some serious reflections on how far one's values match - diversity is good, and we learn from each other's differences, but if your deepest and most fundamental values don’t match to the one you are considering marrying - maybe you should think about it one more time ...

If, for example, there’s a believer and a non-believer, then you’ll never be able to share your innermost beliefs and thoughts with each other, and it will create a weak marriage ... I think if you “just” agree with each other in the most fundamental and important things, you’ll probably be able to cope with all the other disagreements, that might come down the road :) 
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The best marriage-advice, we can give is probably a little “too” Christian for non-believers to understand, sorry! :) But the advice sound like this: as long as we both have God on our first-place in life, then we’ll avoid all sorts of problems with each other. If you are going to focus too much on other people or things (yes even your spouse), then the foundation is to weak - I am a human married to a human - if I am not fully aware of it (*especially* aware of my own mistakes), then it will fail ... And a focus on God will hold me up on this :)
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To be a bit more practical, I (Jamie) have an advice for the guys: Stop chasing after/look for other things (work, money, computer, stuff, whatever) and start chasing your (future) wife - give her as much attention as you can, as often as you possibly can - and often it's the little things that counts ;) 

an advice for the girls: be sure to show him that you love him - even at the times when you just don't feel it ... And even though I know it’s difficult, try not to think too much about the details (a movement, a certain tone or something) - I (Malene) have found that men rarely put as much into it as we girls tend to do :)
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There could be written lots of books with married advices (and it’s already done), and maybe it will be a good idea to read some together - but the most important thing, I think, is to learn from the mistakes, to get to commit along the way, so we can grow together in maturity and unity :)

And when it comes to mistakes, we know very well that no one is perfect ... And your (future) spouse also know that he or she isn’t perfect - so don’t focus on your spouse's mistakes.. . Focus on your own mistakes, and do everything you can to love him or her even more ;)

Can you write a little about marrying so young? (They both married at 19)

When you marry early there will be some advantages and disadvantages - disadvantages include things such as future plans that may be harder to get to fit together ... When you're single, it's quite easy to move to any city in the country (or abroad), but it's not quite as easy when you are married - now it all of a sudden have to fit with someone else's future plans, and if your educations aren’t in the same city, it may well turn out to be a little complicated. But mostly, you’ll find a way :)
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A big advantage if you marry early, is that you’ll faster have a long history together - as time goes you’ll learn each other better and better, and if you do it from an early age, then you grow together with each other (the opposite of growing apart), and you faster get a close bond, which you’ll enjoy for years ;)

But be careful anyway - if you aren’t ready or mature enough, there is a bigger chance that it can go wrong … :)

Why did we marry so early? 

We both had clear and strong views about the marriage covenant, so we knew what we wanted - also we had lived together (with a parent) for a while and went to the same school and church, so we were basically together 24/7 for one and a half year, so our relationship evolved much faster than what I think it would if we only saw each other a few times a week, as many couples do :)

As a final note..

..I would just like to say that life in no way ends when you get married - many have a idea that they juuuust have to try this and that first, and *then* they are ready for the "boring married life". It is by no means boring! In fact I would almost say the opposite: Life does not end when you get married; that’s when it starts ;)

Malene & Jamie you are beautiful together. Thanks for sharing your thoughts & for letting me share your beautiful day here on my blog. If you want more of them I have their Instagrams riiight here.. Malene's & Jamie's.

// Line Thybo