A Mother-Daughter conversation about being a woman

A Wildflowers Home // A Mother-daughter conversation about being a woman // @sheisidentified / Alexsayah & Marnie - She Is Identified

Wildflowers, it is an honour to present the generous and extremely kind-hearted mother-daughter-duo behind She Is Identified speaking up about abuse. They have a unique voice because they are mother and daughter, they cheer each other on and everyone else. They’ve even written a book! They’re some of the strongest women I know out there and their from West Canada, about 9 hours time difference, when we’re trying to Skype!

I’ll give you all the links and details on how to grab their life-changing book, but first.. I’ll give the mic over to Alexsayah & Marnie…


Two woman. One story.

Black hair. Curls. Chocolate drops

Dark brown. Wave. Blue oceans.

Mom. Daughter. Rainy weather days.


“Mom, what’s it like being you?” her daughter, much older than before, asks intently. “You’ve been through trials, fought your way out of them, you’ve loved, you’ve lost, learned and grown. What is it that makes you the strong woman you are?”

Her mom smiles; with a gleam in her eye. “I don’t even know. I just am. Being yourself is something you discover with time. With help of course. But some of us don’t get that help; the guidance into discovering who we really are. I discovered who I was later in life. And now I wish I had more time.

But I know that even when I didn’t feel I understood who I really was like I do today, I did my best to stay true to who I was. We spend our entire lifetime becoming the woman we are inside. That’s a loaded question, bubba.

“Is it always a struggle though mom? Will it ever get easier to be me?” Her daughter asks.

“Yes...and no. With time, experiences—whether good or bad, both are important to the process of being the real you with ease—and even practise, you’ll realize that being you is one of the most beautiful things you can ever do. And staying true to that real being is the most beautiful thing of all.”

Her daughter pauses, puzzled in epiphany, “So what you’re saying is…I’m already me. And when I go through life, experience things, make decisions, hold on to my faith, and be a leader in my life instead of a follower, then the true woman in me will continue to manifest?”

“Exactly.”

Her daughter sighs, “a learning curve, but I think I can do it.”

“I know you can do it, bubba. You’re more you everyday we sit and chat together. I can tell.”

“Well mom it takes a strong woman to make a strong woman. And if what you’re telling me is true about womanhood, then all that you’ve been through, though wearisome, has helped the real you come full circle.

As much as you say you wish you had more time, I think the real woman you are needed to manifest at this time, at this moment, for this season. The first half of your life isn’t wasted, it was shaping you. And as much as we find it difficult to be who we are in this world, there’s no one we’d rather be…or can be.

The End.


Thank you Marnie & Alexsayah for sharing your beautiful hearts and a glimpse of your story. Sweet sweet!

She Is Identified is a movement, so make sure you check them our and give them a follow at @sheisidentified.

Read more about their book PACIFICATION: The Lock in our Chains and buy it here.



That was all for the september theme Exploring Womanhood. It’s the first time I’m trying to have a theme on A Wildflowers Home, so it’s been a bit trial and error, but I’m, honoured by all the courageous and beautiful wildflowers who’ve share their heart and story with me.

You can check out all the other posts about this months theme here and below.

Next up is October where the theme will be Transition // Embracing the Season.

Thanks for reading along. See you next month!

// Line Xx

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Martyna's story on being a Polish woman in America

A Wildflowers Home // journal / exploring womanhood / Martyna's story on being a Polish Woman in America / USA / the states

This month I’m Exploring Womanhood and I asked my friend, Martyna from Poland, some questions on what being a woman looks like in her life, in her country AND being a polish woman in America (she lived in Texas for 6 months exploring her art).

If you don’t already know Martyna I can tell you that she’s a very artistic, generous and kind woman. She’s courageous and brave because she dares to go her own way, even when everyone around her goes the other way. She also has her own blog where she writes in both english and polish, I mean.. if keeping a blog in one language isn’t enough. You go girl!

I have a guest post on mindless scrolling coming for you on her blog, but more about that later.. and let’s get started with the interview.



What about being woman makes you proud?


What makes me proud is the fact that us women we see things from different perspectives that guys. Our way of thinking is usually different and more advanced (proofed by researches).

I grew up surrounded by women who were mainly working at homes (cooking, cleaning etc). They didn’t have so much money to spend on nice clothes or jewelry, what made them look really modest, sometimes not really feminine.

When I was a kid I had one woman that I was super impressed by and was trying to be just like her. She was an American lady who came to Poland to help with mission for children and youth. She was really loving person. What impressed me the most was her deep relationship with God that I could saw through the way she was worshipping and walking in prophetic anointing. I’d been always wanting to be able to hear God’s voice in my life so it seemed like I met a perfect person to learn from.




What are some of the biggest cultural differences about the woman in your country and country you live in now?


In my country (red. Poland) many women are still caught up in the old way of thinking like “man should be the one working more and providing money for our family” while in USA it seems like both man and woman work the same. Sometimes woman is the one who earns more money that man. In some place in Poland women are not allowed to teach in many churches just because of their sex. In America most of the churches allow women to teach and even to be a pastor.


What traditions for women in other cultures do you you admire?


This year I got a chance to be in USA during the Mother’s Day. It’s a HUGE for Americans. Not only children buy chocolate and flowers for their moms, but women are being given all kinds of cards, wishes, flowers and gifts by their husbands, parents, family and friends. Motherhood is a big thing and is celebrated as a big day for women. I love it!


What do you wish to see in our culture for the next generation of women to grow up in?


I wish in next generation people will respect women more than they do now. Sometimes I feel like women are being disrespected or treated worse than men only because of their sex. They are not treated the same in many aspects of life even something basic like business. I wish next generation would be more tolerant and respectful no matter of the sex.


In our culture today, what do you think is the biggest misunderstanding about being a woman?


I deeply believe women are capable to do whatever they put their minds to. They are able to achieve more than they think. They are able to be leader of the nations and voice of those who are speechless. They can change our world into something better. They are stronger than they think, because their strength is not defined by their physical bodies but their strong minds. I think today’s world really doesn’t understand power that women have. The world thinks women are weak, because their bodies are not as strong as male bodies. The world thinks they weak because their voices are softer and not as tough as male voices. But that’s not true. They were made to be strong because of their sensitivity, because of their gentleness. If people only understood that the true strength finds its place in our heart women would be treated differently.


What do you wish women were taught about being a women?


Everything from the previous answer :)
The same about men.


What do you think about wearing red lipstick?


I personally love wearing lipstick! Different shades of red, pink, burgundy! I think it makes you more confident and makes you look super nice and classy :)


Thank you Martyna for sharing about your experience on being a woman.
I wrote a piece about mindless scrolling “So you’re mindelessly scrolling?” on Martyna’s blog Krok w bokwhich means sidestep in english. It’s both in english and in polish (say what! I appreciate your hard work, Martyna!).

I talk about how we’re mindlessly scrolling and how important it is to be more conscious about what we fill our mind & soul with. I give some tips that I use + some great hashtags & accounts to follow that brings a little value and wisdom to your mindless scrolling. I worked really hard on it, so yes, I’m a proud mama. Hope on over to Martyna’s blog and have a happy reading!

Also, check out Martyna’s instagram right here + she recently started a Youtube channel, let’s show her a little love and appreciation and make the beautiful wildflower that she is feel at home!


That was all for now.
Thanks for reading along!


// Line Xx!

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A Wildflowers Home // Exploring Womanhood // Martyna's story on being a Polish woman in America