Your feelings are important, but they are not meant to control your life. So I here's a little list of some things that've helped me get my anger (or other feeling) out before I did something stupid.
btw, I know the photo is a bit bipolar, but it was the only photo I had presenting a mood. But to smile is our goal right? ;) It's taking in Tel A Viv in Israel.. I think it was a random trashcan floating somewhere. Idk, I was 17, not that I wouldn't do it again.. anyywayyyys! The list..
music - a real moodchanger
music has this magical influence on our mood. But! I'm not talking only about the happy-clappy music like the "Happy"-song by Pharrell.. it can be good to make you smile and maybe get you dancin' a little, but other times.. it may just annoy the shit out of you. Find something that really suits your mood. Here's a little secret about me (not so secret anymore, hah) I have a playlist on Spotify called "GRRRR". No kidding! It's for those times when calm worship music or One Directions annoy me more than change my mood for the better. In that playlists I feel like they understand my mood.. & slowly.. I'm feeling better and more calm, BUT pay attention to the lyrics. Lyrics & words effect you more than you realise.
Suggestions: skillet, demon hunters, NF, Lecrae, "dear X, you don'r own me" by disciple and "really don't care" by Demi Lovato, "flytta på dej" by Alina Devecerski. - these are some of my favorites. I'd love to hear your suggestions in the comments!
write it out
write your heart out and don't hold back. What I mean by that is seriously write everything that FREAKING annoys you and why. Every. Word. On. Your. Mind. Your grandma ain't listening. I know that's not nice to say, but I hope you get my point here. This isn't for anyone to read. This is your OUTLET. You gotta be real with yourself. Put words on those feelings. You feelings are important. They need to be heard before you can change them. Let. Them. Out. I don't care how many ugly words you write, you are just being real. Your journal won't tell anyone. If so, burn it.
I've broken pencils and made huge wholes on more pages then I can count, but that's not the point. The point is that I'm trying to be real with my self & my feeling. & yes, it looks messy my friend. But you need a safe place where you can be yourself. The good, the bad and the ugly. If you don't have a safe place for that stuff.. It might get real ugly. That's part of the process ;)
I can't say enough how important it is for you to get it out - healthy - before someday all your ignored feelings explode and you do something you regret. Or maybe you're not the explosive type, but instead you might be struggling with anxiety or depression. (If you do find yourself there, please find someone you trust & tell them - YOU ARE IMPORTANT.) This tool goes for every feeling. I don't wanna preach at ya, but I know how important this is. So do yourself a favor BE REAL.
Don't wrap it in into pretty words when what you're feeling ain't pretty!
find a desert place & SCREAM
find a place you can scream your lungs out. But watch out for strangers.. you never know who will call the psychiatrist. Just kidding. Scream to the world. If you need scream-suggestions I would recommend words as "Freedom", "I'm enough" or "I don't care what you think about me" (you're probably gonna be a little sore after the last one). Or run the fastest you can while screaming your lungs out. That works great too.
kick or hit something (unbreakable!)
if you have a boxing pillow at hand. Great! Use that. But if you don't, like probably most of us.. Find something you can punch, kick, throw, whatever.. as long as it doesn't break or hurt anything or anyone. I once tried an empty bottle(spontaneous). Worked pretty good for me. Or your pillow. Bonus! it doesn't hurt you either ;)
and no, I do not have anger issues. But I get angry, annoy, irritatet, grumphy, hormonal, you name it.. sometimes. & I've just learn (the hard way) how important it is to aknowledge & listen to your feelings. Let them out before you can let them go.
So I hope these tips helps.. try out what works for you. Maybe you have some great methods that aren't mentioned hear. I'd love to hear them and/or your thoughts about this. So please comment below and let the healthy-anger-talk begin.. Did I sound like therapist there? Sorry..
Talk to you soon!