a fatherly advice // pioneering

A Wildflowers Home Journal // a fatherly advice // Ole Anton Thybo Møller

dear wildflower,
a short introduction before I let my dad, YES MY DAD, take over. I’m doing something a bit crazy and I guess you could call “pioneering? I’m letting my dad write a monthly series here on AWH about being a father. I have no idea what this is gonna look like, I’m not sure he does either, but he seemed to take it very serious (thank you dad) and as an honor. This is also to further the message of this community and HOME for wildflowers. We not only need each other, but we also need spiritual fathers and mothers to be just THAT a parent. To give us advice from someone who has lived at least one life time longer than us. So that’s what I wanted to give to you.. a little piece of my dads fatherly-ness. Some of his advice and story.

he isn’t used to this kind of thing, he was
after all born only 8 years after WW2 ended (WHAT?! ;) ) so be kind to him, welcome him with warmth and love and encouragements. that will be highly appreciated! (also from the daughter!)

and with that being said.. here you go! (also, english isn’t his first language, so can we just appreciate and give him a big round of applause for writing in another language?!)


Lines father speaking: Please believe me! It’s not on my mind to just give provocative statements. I was born 8 years after WW2 ended (Line often teases me with that). I am that kind of father who did not make everything right. Who do that? I am also a father with days and hours hosting feelings of powerlessness when it’s about my kids. I am serious! If you should doubt: It’s not always easy to be a father! We

Now! Let’s talk a little about being “fatherless” and some feministic point of view that fathers/men are approximately useless. Let’s also shortly look at our generation with all too many divorces.

No other time has been called “the fatherless generation.” Even not after the world wars where 100.000’s of men offered their life’s. Many, many women helped sacrificially to rebuild their land after WW2 (Germany and others) without husband or fiancé. Many kids grew up without a father. These boys - how did they learn to be a man or a father without having one? And the daughters - who told them how beautiful and intelligent they are? Of course I honor all the mothers who did their very best to compensate.

In our time then! What happens to the fathers? Do they not see or having feelings for their kids? Missing them? Want to play with them? Having fun with them? Making a safe space around them. Loving their mother and showing their kids the best values in life. I believe in fathers even you can say they are weak or “from an other planet”. Of course we all know abusive fathers who seriously needs help. I am not talking about them.

Then, for the last 5 decades, you have seen a part of the feministic movements bringing on the table, that men and fathers er more or less for trouble or even useless. It’s my opinion that our community er quiet affected of these statements. Of course we men/fathers are affected!

Families demolished due to divorce. Mothers and fathers struggling for their kids not to suffer too much. Mothers having their hardest time. Father “looking in a mirror”(regarding his ex-wife and kids). I dare you he is suffering too! I do not take up the question who we think earn to suffer the most, if anyone at all. However the kids are the most suffering!

Now I am sorry if I have tired you! I hope you want to continue a little more. The thing is that my youngest daughter, Line or “A Wildflowers Home” moved away from home 18 years old. She came back 2 years ago because of some very difficulty circumstances. She is now 24 years old and she is funny, wise, creative, lovely, intelligent, mature and much more.

Our journey together has been like in “The Little Prince”: The little Prince said to the Fox: “You and I need to travel some distance together, we need to get to know each other and discover who you are and who I am.” From “The Little Prince” of Antoine de Saint-Exupery.

What we find on our journey together is what I will write about now and then. I hope it will be “funny, wise, creative, lovely, intelligent, mature and much more” like my wildflower-daughter! This will surely surprise her, but she has made my life as a father much more colorful and funny. She has learned me much about being a father. It’s not boring!

A Wildflowers Home Journal // A fatherly advice // Ole Anton Thybo Møller
 

note from a littlesister // pioneering

A Wildflowes Home // note from a little sister // Journal // pioneering // Ingrid Kolås

since this is the first “note from a littlesister”, I Line will just quickly jump in and say a few things. If you didn’t hear about the new series here on AWH, I recommend checking out this little post first where I introduce the series, right here.

while his months theme is pioneering, the theme is meant as a “loose guideline” for the writers, how they choose to interpret is, is up to them, and what makes it the more exciting. If you didn’t catch my little introduction of the pionerring theme and what that has to do with wildflowers, you can read it here.

Ingrid, who is the writer behind this monthly series “note from a littlesister”. I’m so so so excited to see her grow as a writer, her voice and see where this is gonna take her and us as the readers. This is her first piece she’s ever written for a blog, so show her some love and appreciation. She did a little interview and telling her story a few years back, you can read that here, if you wanna more about her story.

That’s all I had to say. And the last time I interrupt so rudely, I give the word over to Ingrid, and hope you’ll enjoy, be inspired and feel encourage from a littlesister!


Dear you!

Don’t be scared. You´re amazing. Even if everyone around you tells you you´re not. Don’t listen to them. I know it´s hard, but I also know that you can handle it and stand against it. Everyone who tells you that you can´t handle things, is just trying to beat you down. If you want to do something big in your life, do it. Not for everyone else, but for you and only you. You are the only one who will receive something from your choices. If you fail, that will be on you, not them. And if you success, that will be on you as well. Nobody can take that away from you. You can do anything you want. It´s hard to stand against the hate, and I know that and have experienced that my own. It´s like being on a stage where everyone can see your failure and laugh at you. It´s horrible and I wish you could see that you´re not like what they tell you. You are strong, and you can do it. Just believe it, and you´ll get through. No matter how many people there are to beat you down, there will always be that person who reach for your hand to help you stand again. I promise. Me myself has coped with so much. Teachers who told me I couldn’t do things, people around me I thought was my friends telling me I´m not what they expected, my parents giving up on me, and friends telling me to stop doing what I want. I know the feeling of being beaten down. It´s horrible. As a 6-year-old girl I started shooting. And trust me people has told me that girls shouldn´t do it, and that its dangerous, and telling me that my dad is crazy who let me shoot at such a young age. But you know what? I didn´t listened to them. I´m here 12 years later doing what I love and taking a class that makes me a hunter. This is what I love to do, and I really hope that I one day can be the best. Through me 18 years of living, I´ve learned a lot, but the most important thing I´ve learned is that not everyone is going to like me or my plans for life. I think a lot of people look at me and laugh. Like how an 18-year-old girl can be the best hunter. If I let the words people tell me choose what to do, I wouldn’t be where I am today. My dad always believed in me when it comes to shooting. He always supports me no matter what. If I have a bad day at the shooting club, he gives me a clap on the shoulder and tells me that the next time I can make it better. It´s these people you should surround yourself with. The ones who believes in you even when you didn’t make it your best. It´s those people who will be there till the end and support you no matter what. They will always have your back and they will fall with you and not standing look at you fall. They will also raise again with you. So, whatever you dream to do, do it. Don’t let other people think of you like a loser, cause you´re many things, but you´re not a loser. You´re a winner and you will always be even tho you fail a couple of times.


Who is the writer? Where can you learn more about this person?

A Wildflowers Home // note from a littlesister // ingrid kolås // visitcard
 

february theme // pioneering

A Wildflowers home // febuary theme pioneering aka breaking through the concrete

One of my favorite qualities of wildflowers is it’s perseverance, persistence and fighter-spirit.
When something so fragile as a flower can break through something as hard as concrete,
then what’s gonna stop us?

It doesn’t mean it’s gonna be easy, pioneering never is,
but it can be fun, wild, challenging and grow you like crazy.

Pioneering means to break the land,
break into the mountains to pave a tunnel through to the other side,
travel where no one has ever been,
grow where no one thought possible,
start something no one thought could flourish,
because pioneering means doing something no one has done before…


according to thesaurus.com pioneering means
”invent; lay the groundwork”

accoring to
cambridge.org pioneering means
using ideas and methods that have never been used before:
pioneering
techniques
a pioneering
surgeon

according to dictionary.com a pioneer is
1. a person who is among those who first enter or settle a region, thus opening it for occupation and development by others.
2. one who is first or among the earliest in any field of inquiry, enterprise, or progress: pioneers in cancer research.

3. one of a group of foot soldiers detailed to make roads, dig intrenchments etc., in advance of the main body.


Wildflowers have persistence,
wildflowers break through barriers,
wildflowers break through the concrete,

because wildflowers are pioneers.
wildflowers are pioneering.

That’s this months focus.

I have some exciting writers lined up, both introducing new writers and reintroducing.
I can’t wait for this to start, and I hope you will give them all a warming welcome, show their posts some love and leave your thoughts in the comments and share the posts that touch your heart.

Let’s break into this month!


// Line

A Wildflowers Home // Line Thybo Visitkort // awildflowersjourney // AWH