July Word from the Planter on Growing Pains

A Wildflowers Home // Growing Pains


Happy July dear Wildflowers!

it’s a new month, we’re mid-summer here in Denmark AND we’re digging into a new theme here at A Wildflowers Home;


Growing Pains.


I think we can all relate to the pains of a growing moment in our life, maybe even a season. It can be in relationships, at work, when trying something new or it can be facing our fears.

Alessia Cara actually wrote a song called Growing Pains and I love these lines:

”Used monsters as an excuse to lie awake
Now the monsters are the ones that I have to face
No band-aids for the growing pains”

Facing your monsters is a great synonym for Growing Pains.

I myself have been through probably the wildest and longest growing pain-journey yet, many of you probably know that I burned out couple of years ago, and while a lot of the journey has been healing from the traumatic events and resting from the burnout, there’s definitely been some real pain of growing. Auch!
It can sound so easy, almost cliche, but I’ve learned through these hard years, that growing, is a choice, and it can be so. daaawn. tough! Sometimes it can take a little while to gather the courage to dive into the pain of growth, other times we’re thrown right in it with hair, feet and nail scrapings.. but I’ve survived my hardest moments of Growing Pain so far, which is a testimony and proof to me that I then can survive the next Growing Pain that’s gonna come. And these words doesn’t come lightly from me..

Sometimes Growing comes as distractions, and I’ve had to take some choices that didn’t really make sense to me, but I had to let go of feelings, people and even friendships to grow, which has definitely been painful. And it didn’t always look like a fabulous growing opportunity, often they can look quite ugly, for a long time, some still does, they’re never gonna be pretty so I sometimes have to remind myself that I did the right thing, and that I did grow from letting go. Letting go can be painful.

I usually say that it’s been the most expensive wisdom lessons of my life. When going through hardship we can choose to grow or get bitter. Bitter is easy and doesn’t really require any work, some might even say it’s understandable, but it doesn’t grow you..

It doesn’t move you forward into the next season.

It doesn’t take you up to the next level.

It doesn’t get you up that mountain to let you see the beautiful view that awaits you.

Growing through pain is a necessity in life, if you don’t wanna be stuck. And sometimes not choosing to grow, can be even more painful.

If we take it literally in our body, when our bones were growing as a kid, there would sometimes be a pain, but our body needed to grow or as my 1-year-old nephew, he is growing his teeth out, and it’s painful and itchy, but he needs his teeth to chew food. Growth is a necessity, even though we often don’t see the point or the “why” behind our pain. Like my baby-nephew doesn’t understand right now, but once they’re out. He’s gonna be so happy they are, cause now he can chew real food, and he’s already forgotten the pain of getting them there. So let’s be brave and choose growth! Even when it’s painful.


That’s all, let’s kick this month in with some Growing Pain!

Love,
Line, the planter of A Wildflowers Home
<3 <3 <3




Here are some prompts for the Wildflower Takeovers.

even if you’re not a Wildflower Takeover, you can take these prompts and use them for yourself, as a reminder for when you went through something painful AND GOT THROUGH or you’re free to ask some of the Wildflower Takeovers to share something on these prompts.

(…and just a short note on that. I know call them or us, the Wildflower Takeovers, because that’s what they are, it’s a simple 2 worded title and it’s not just the story they take over anymore, it’s the whole account. So from now on, those you see taking over the story and post on the feed on @awildflowershome on instagram, are called Wildflower Takeovers. Short note, finished.)


  • A childhood memory

  • When learning something new

  • A moment of growth

  • A bad habit you had to let go of

  • A painful moment of growth

  • A bad cycle you had to break

  • A moment of hard truth

  • A confrontation that lead to growth

  • Something that was so painful that growth HAD to happen

  • Something you had to let go off

  • Someone you had to say goodbye to

Taking Over Instagram Stories & a New Theme about Seasons

What’s up with all the faces and people taking over the stories on instagram? A new thing is being planted…

A Wildflower’s Home has started something NEW. On every weekday (the goal is to expand to 7 days a week, but we gotta start somewhere) a new wildflower logs in on the @awildflowershome instagram account and take over the stories for a day! We share about the things of life, the good, the bad and the messy, we share our daily day life with you AND talk about a weekly theme all this to BUILD the community for wildflowers, a place we can feel home!
I hope you will engage, get to know and share with the wildflowers who takeover, give them lots of love, laugh when they laugh and cry with them when they cry, we wanna do this together. As a community of wildflowers. A safe place. A place to rest our wings and lower our shoulders,a place to feel and be home.

OH, and the new theme is SEASONS. We go through many many different seasons in life. Both physical, mental, transitional, waiting, dreaming, resting, healing, working, learning etc. This month and until we’re done (I don’t think monthly works here, sometimes we like to talk about them longer, hah!) we will be sharing, writing and talking about the seasons of life.

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The 5 wildflower who took over last week talked about seasons. I’ve picked some of the highlights from each of the wildflowers from each day and put them together into one highlight called SEASONS. You can click on the picture below to go directly to A Wildflowers Home’s Instagram account to rewatch the best bits or catch up if you missed some of the days! - remember to follow while you’re there!

A Wildflowers Home // seasons
 
 

If you’re interested in knowing more, maybe even wanna join the wildflower takeover team, there’s a few things you can do..

I Line, shared some of the vision of the storytakover in a video, you can find it both on A Wildflowers Home’s Instagram profile AND on A Wildflowers Home’s facebook page.

If you have any questions feel free to ask on here, in the comments, on the different social media account or contact me through my DM’s on my personal @awildflowersjourney. I’ll make sure to respond both places.

If you’re eager to jump right in. We have an facebook group, for the story takeovers only, below there’s a button where you can apply to join the group. Serious inquires only, please.

 
A Wildflowers Home team
Closed group · 9 members
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This is all still in the beginning fases, but it is SO MUCH FUN. I’ve recieved so good feedback, both from the story overtakers, but also you who follow along. Keep that up and please share it, so we can reach more and grow our community! :)

That’s all I had to say for now.

Enjoy!

// Line

a fatherly advice // pioneering

A Wildflowers Home Journal // a fatherly advice // Ole Anton Thybo Møller

dear wildflower,
a short introduction before I let my dad, YES MY DAD, take over. I’m doing something a bit crazy and I guess you could call “pioneering? I’m letting my dad write a monthly series here on AWH about being a father. I have no idea what this is gonna look like, I’m not sure he does either, but he seemed to take it very serious (thank you dad) and as an honor. This is also to further the message of this community and HOME for wildflowers. We not only need each other, but we also need spiritual fathers and mothers to be just THAT a parent. To give us advice from someone who has lived at least one life time longer than us. So that’s what I wanted to give to you.. a little piece of my dads fatherly-ness. Some of his advice and story.

he isn’t used to this kind of thing, he was
after all born only 8 years after WW2 ended (WHAT?! ;) ) so be kind to him, welcome him with warmth and love and encouragements. that will be highly appreciated! (also from the daughter!)

and with that being said.. here you go! (also, english isn’t his first language, so can we just appreciate and give him a big round of applause for writing in another language?!)


Lines father speaking: Please believe me! It’s not on my mind to just give provocative statements. I was born 8 years after WW2 ended (Line often teases me with that). I am that kind of father who did not make everything right. Who do that? I am also a father with days and hours hosting feelings of powerlessness when it’s about my kids. I am serious! If you should doubt: It’s not always easy to be a father! We

Now! Let’s talk a little about being “fatherless” and some feministic point of view that fathers/men are approximately useless. Let’s also shortly look at our generation with all too many divorces.

No other time has been called “the fatherless generation.” Even not after the world wars where 100.000’s of men offered their life’s. Many, many women helped sacrificially to rebuild their land after WW2 (Germany and others) without husband or fiancé. Many kids grew up without a father. These boys - how did they learn to be a man or a father without having one? And the daughters - who told them how beautiful and intelligent they are? Of course I honor all the mothers who did their very best to compensate.

In our time then! What happens to the fathers? Do they not see or having feelings for their kids? Missing them? Want to play with them? Having fun with them? Making a safe space around them. Loving their mother and showing their kids the best values in life. I believe in fathers even you can say they are weak or “from an other planet”. Of course we all know abusive fathers who seriously needs help. I am not talking about them.

Then, for the last 5 decades, you have seen a part of the feministic movements bringing on the table, that men and fathers er more or less for trouble or even useless. It’s my opinion that our community er quiet affected of these statements. Of course we men/fathers are affected!

Families demolished due to divorce. Mothers and fathers struggling for their kids not to suffer too much. Mothers having their hardest time. Father “looking in a mirror”(regarding his ex-wife and kids). I dare you he is suffering too! I do not take up the question who we think earn to suffer the most, if anyone at all. However the kids are the most suffering!

Now I am sorry if I have tired you! I hope you want to continue a little more. The thing is that my youngest daughter, Line or “A Wildflowers Home” moved away from home 18 years old. She came back 2 years ago because of some very difficulty circumstances. She is now 24 years old and she is funny, wise, creative, lovely, intelligent, mature and much more.

Our journey together has been like in “The Little Prince”: The little Prince said to the Fox: “You and I need to travel some distance together, we need to get to know each other and discover who you are and who I am.” From “The Little Prince” of Antoine de Saint-Exupery.

What we find on our journey together is what I will write about now and then. I hope it will be “funny, wise, creative, lovely, intelligent, mature and much more” like my wildflower-daughter! This will surely surprise her, but she has made my life as a father much more colorful and funny. She has learned me much about being a father. It’s not boring!

A Wildflowers Home Journal // A fatherly advice // Ole Anton Thybo Møller